When twenty students come out to a “grats on hitting 50” jamboree, we are approached by new players who want to be part of an atmosphere of comradery and good humor.
When four SJS cat-people get into an argument in Pocket D, we are approached by new players who want to enroll cat-people.
When students engage in sexual roleplay in Faultline, we attract new players who want to have sex.
Because of this, we will become what we appear to be. Our actions shape who joins us, and how we are perceived. That is why we have a Code of Conduct. That is why we have discussion forums. That is why we have Office Hours. We share this environment together, and so we all benefit from its successes and suffer for its failures.
Recently, I became concerned in what I perceived as a marked upswing in the amount of in-game fooling around going on. I began a discussion with the Upperclassmen and found that my concerns were shared by every one of them who voiced an opinion.
Saint Joseph School is not a sex SG. There are plenty of SGs out there which are, but we are not. Yes, sex is an issue that deals with our themes, like coming-of-age. However, we cannot permit characters to be enrolled in this supergroup whose primary purpose is to pursue cybersex on behalf of their player.
I will say that again.
Sex is a theme that should broaden your character development and contribute to roleplay. Roleplay should not be used as a flimsy excuse to seek cybersex.
If that is your purpose in this supergroup, I ask you to withdraw before you are expelled.
There are lots of serious problems with using your character for cybersex. I won’t go into them all, but let me list out a couple of them briefly.
- Public sexual displays tarnish the image and reputation of our supergroup. Since the beginning, girls in SJS have gotten a little flak simply because they’re in a skirt. Getting /tells like “r u as hot as ur toon?” have plagued some of us since the beginning. However, in the last few weeks, some students have gotten /tells concerning sex in SJS. If people outside the supergroup are talking about it, then you are not nearly as subtle as you think. And if people think that they can come here to have sex, it is because they have either witnessed students acting inappropriately or been told that they do.
- Others may follow your poor example, damaging our supergroup. Once people join this group thinking it is a place to have sex, they will start to act inappropriately. New students will be “hit up” for cybersex within days or even hours of joining. That will drive new players away, and encourage even more sexually-motivated players to seek enrollment.
- You may not know who you are having sex with. You simply cannot be certain that the person you are interacting with online is an adult. There are players in SJS under the age of 18. There are players in CoX as young as 10. The horrific implications of this should not need further explanation.
- It's poor roleplaying. No high-school student without a psychological disorder gets transferred to a brand new school, spends the morning meeting other students, and then has sex with one of them that afternoon. That's ridiculous. And so this kind of sexual roleplay isn't roleplay: it is a player seeking sexual gratification using their character.
- It’s extremely poor roleplaying. Do you honestly expect people in this SG to believe that your character would have sex in public? If so, there is something wrong with you. Do you want the community-at-large to ostracize you for your behavior? If so, there is something wrong with you. Do you want the community-at-large to just let you do whatever you please, because you're "roleplaying"? If so, there is something wrong with you. Let me remind everyone that SJS is a Catholic school. Blatant sexual roleplay is basically begging for NPCs to step in and get involved because logically they would. Thinking that you can do what you want because there aren't actually teachers and staff and detention and suspension flies in the face of the tacit agreement we all share: that our characters do not exist in a vacuum. When you roleplay from your groin instead of your head, you are doing yourself and your character a disservice.
Use a different toon. Join a different SG. Do not damage something that is not your exclusive property.
"Caveat Emptor"
